This week is all about anxiety and a new way I’m thinking about it. But, I want to start off with a story about people pleasing.
Every year, it seems I come across one, lasting piece of advice that leaves an indelible mark on me—something that not only has an impact when I hear it but lingers with me far into the future. And this year, I have to thank my best friend, Dave Hall, for providing that piece of advice.
Feeling lonely is one of the most pervasive struggles of founder life. Stakes always feel high and we are so often afraid of what we might lose if we reveal our challenges to people around us. But opening up and being vulnerable is the key to combating loneliness. As a founder myself, here’s exactly how I’m doing that.
If you’re anything like me, you give the people around you a good amount of grace. You forgive people. You allow people to fail. But you hold yourself to a higher standard than you hold others to. But here’s how I’ve been shifting my own mental talk track and how this kind of shift can be so important for our businesses.
If we believed our brains were our best asset, we’d likely spend more time caring for them. And I don’t just mean filling them with information. We’d spend time considering it, we’d put emotional resources into caring for it, and we’d talk about it with others. Here’s what I’ve been doing to value my own brain more.
Managers tend to think of managing people as a dreaded task. And, if I’m honest, that’s often how I’ve thought of it, too. But I think we all have some work to do—we need to change this mindset—because managing people is where the real joy is found.
The fear center of our brains is where I think we spend most of our time these days, especially when it comes to debates about immigration. If you’ve spent any time on Twitter or Facebook, this is no surprise to you. But how are immigrants actually affecting national economy and what impact do they have on the startup world? I did some digging recently to find some answers for myself.
When we write, or when we do anything at work (or at home, for that matter), we have a choice. That choice can either be about showcasing our brand, our work, or our feelings. It can be all about “us.” Or, we can make it about the thing bigger than us. It can be about a collective move toward something better.
People often perceive temporary behaviors as concrete and permanent personality traits. And it can cause us to disengage and avoid people instead of digging in, creating deeper relationships and giving us all chances to grow and change. All of which have consequences in our business lives. Here’s how I’ve been giving better grace.